Sometimes no-contact isn't possible. Or they won't respect it. Here's how to protect yourself.
Types of Boundaries
- • Communication: What contact is acceptable, when, about what
- • Physical: Space, belongings, shared spaces
- • Emotional: What you will and won't discuss
- • Time: How long interactions last
How to Set Them
- • Be clear and direct. "I need you to..."
- • Explain why (briefly) if helpful
- • State consequences for crossing the boundary
- • Follow through on consequences
Example Scripts
"I need us to only communicate about [specific thing]. If you text about other stuff, I won't respond."
"I'm not ready to be friends. Please give me space to heal. I'll reach out if/when that changes."
When They Don't Respect Boundaries
Boundaries require enforcement. If they keep crossing, you may need to block, involve others, or seek legal help in extreme cases. You're allowed to protect your peace.
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